Nice Guys and Pornography

The effects of pornography are present even though pornography often happens in isolation. What is in the dark will become evident in the light and the lure of pornography is that one can escape into the darkness and not be found until...

Your nice guy syndrome is revealed. 

Nice guys are often crippled by the damaging effects of always taking care of everybody else. This creates a people pleasing anxiety for men and causes the nice guys to wear mask. Wearing the mask of people pleasing allows men to appear like they are caring and selfless, but behind the mask is the darkness of his loneliness and isolation.

When Mr. Nice Guy is pleasing others his thought process leads him to think about ways that he can take care of himself. On a cognitive level he may not process the event in this order, but emotionally he is feeling empty, because he is always pleasing others. This emptiness leads to a false reality and a false choice of choosing pornography over intimate relationships.

The path out of the nice guy syndrome and pornography is walking towards a relationship and becoming open and vulnerable despite what others may think. Being transparent and honest in relationships will lead to long term satisfaction. The darkness of pornography will continue to lead to short term gratification and disappointment, which will be exposed one day when your nice guy syndrome is revealed.


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