4.19.2011

Focus on You, Not Your Kids

Two area Dallas MFT's, fellow bloggers, and coffee drinkers Corey Allan and Rhett Smith echoed a similar voice today in their blog post. Essentially, stop wasting energy focusing on your kids and their potential problems. Focus on you and your marriage and make that relationship stronger and the latter issue with your son or daughter will resolve itself.

We all get trapped in this cycle that is familiar to family systems. Family system theory applies to most aspects of our life. In general, we often do not want to spend the necessary time and energy on ourselves and making sure we are healthy individuals. Instead, we will take our issues and transfer the energy to our kids and or other relationships in our life. Therefore, resulting in what Rhett calls placing our anxiety on our children. Take Corey's advice today on focus some much needed time and energy on you.

What do you enjoy doing and know that it is refreshing?

What steps do you need to take to allow space for this activity in your life?

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